Lovebombing: What is it and why is it dangerous?

Have you ever been lovebombed? It may seem romantic,  but it can be the beginning of a bad relationship! Click further to see the signs of lovebombing.

When you're just getting to know each other and the relationship is new, it's very nice to receive compliments from your lover. However, getting too much attention can be a warning sign. This is called 'lovebombing,' a term coined by psychotherapist Steven Hassan.

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The term 'lovebombing' was originally used to describe the manipulative techniques of cults. These organizations shower new members with affection in order to disarm them and gain control over them.

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According to Harpers Bazaar, the term is a hot topic on social media. The hashtag #LoveBombing has been viewed 360 million times on TikTok alone. Recognizing lovebombing is crucial, as the behavior can quickly turn into stalker behavior or mental violence.

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This extreme form of attention, which is often accompanied by promises that, as you realize later, are not kept, is taken very seriously by mental health experts. In the next slides, you will read how to recognize it and what you can do about it!

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The magazine 'Quest' writes that people who engage in lovebombing want to move ahead very quickly in the relationship. They discuss a joint future from the first date, for example, or immediately start planning holidays for the couple.

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They use general compliments and say things like "You're fantastic," rather than mentioning specific qualities. They seem to know exactly how to reassure you, but if you look critically at their remarks, they can feel hollow and inauthentic.

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Lots of phone calls, lots of messages, and lots of gifts will seem like fun at first. Yet these signals can indicate lovebombing.

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This behavior can lead to suffocation, requiring you to pay more and more attention to your new crush. It doesn't matter how many compliments you give. They keep looking for more, which can lead to exhaustion.

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In addition, lovebombers want to be with you all the time, which means you have little time for yourself. This also implies that you will have little time to reflect on your new relationship or discuss it with your friends.

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People who engage in lovebombing tend to reveal their deepest secrets to you early in the relationship. This can be a tactic to create a false sense of intimacy. You will feel encouraged to tell things about yourself even though, in reality, you don't know if these secrets will be safe in the hands of your new crush.

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Understanding the red flags of love bombing is crucial. Watch for excessive compliments, exaggerated plans for the future, and a lack of respect for your boundaries when you embark on a new relationship.

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If you feel like they are suffocating you, discuss your feelings with your partner. If this doesn't help, seek support from friends, family, or a professional. Discussing your experience can be enlightening.

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Avoid quick commitments to your new crush. Enjoy getting to know each other. Don't be tempted by promises about the future until you are sure the feelings are genuine.

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Love bombing is dangerous because it is often difficult to detect. At first, it feels like a normal crush. Don't we all love it to get attention? However, in time this can lead to serious emotional damage.

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Whenever you meet someone new, take care of your own well-being. The best way to protect yourself against manipulative behavior is to know the signs and be aware of the dangers of lovebombing. Make sure you set healthy boundaries. If you need further support, consult reliable sources online or consider therapy.

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